Friday, April 03, 2009


Seth Barnes of Adventures in Missions wrote this on his blog this week:

Many of you reading this are coping with some private pain. Life is hard. Just when you think it's safe to relax, it whacks you on the backside. Pain is inevitable, whether it's the dull throb of regret or the sharp, searing pain of death.

My parents' generation knew this all too well. Born in the wake of a depression and a war that engulfed the world, they expected pain and grew adept at sacrifice. But fast forward to today and a generation is growing up that expects not pain, but entertainment. Everything is optional; so when the going gets tough, they tend to opt out.

It's no way to live. When pain is optional, you have a hard time knowing what things are worth. We learn to prize certain things, that is to place a value on them, by going through pain. As a child, it was the toys I had to work for or wait for that I loved the most. Things need to have a cost attached to them to have value. You don't float down river and accomplish anything. All good things lie upstream.

Job promotions don't just fall in your lab, you've got to burn the midnight oil to distinguish yourself to your boss. Creating anything of excellence usually requires repeated effort. It requires failure. Mozart may have been gifted enough to create masterpieces as a child, but the rest of us have to sweat through years of hard work. We have to swim against the current to get there.

My parents taught me discipline by exposing me to pain. They encouraged me to be a wrestler in high school, knowing that the discipline would be good for me. Every practice, the coaches would push us to the point of exhaustion. We strained and sweated and became well-acquainted with pain. Winning required that we work harder than our competition.

Most healing lies upstream. To move from brokenness to health necessitates patience and realignment, whether it be a broken bone or a broken spirit. The only way to deal with the pain is to go through it.

There's a generation that may never get to healing because of the pain involved. As long as it's optional, the path of least resistance is more attractive. But pain is inevitable for all of us. Downstream we'll find the pain of regret. We'll replay the tapes of missed opportunities. We'll kick ourselves for not sucking it up and moving upstream when we had the chance.

Maybe it's time to turn over a new leaf. Why not choose to face reality while you have the choice? Don't be a victim - choose to move upstream where you'll find your destiny waiting for you.

To read more of Seth's writings, visit his blog:


Anonymous said...

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Elysa said...

Thank you so much, Betty. As we sometimes say around these come back now, you hear? ;)